Who will win in the battle of artificial intelligence vs human intelligence and how we’re keeping up with technology and avoiding becoming obsolete

AI is here to stay! So we need to learn to keep up with technology. Allister Frost is here to help us get our heads around it all!

Are you freaked out by the Terminator films? You should be! 

 

After listening to or reading this episode you’ll be more aware of how AI fits into our everyday lives!

 

We’re making conversations about how to keep up count, with Allister Frost – Episode 86!

 

Allister talks us through the technology!

 

 

The battle of artificial intelligence vs human intelligence with Allister Frost

Big take-away quote from this conversation about the battle of artificial intelligence vs human intelligence with – Allister Frost:

“(Computers) process things incredibly efficiently. That’s what they do. Using electricity. And they take set patterns and they can make sense of them, they can order them, and so on. They can only follow the path they’ve been given. That all changes as we go forward into artificial general intelligence, which is the point probably within the next 10 to 20 years where computers are able to pass the Turing test.”

Allister Frost, Making Conversations Count – (June 2022)

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Who is Allister Frost? And how serious is the battle with artificial intelligence?

Allister Frost is a speaker and an expert in the field of artificial intelligence.

He feels that the battle between artificial intelligence and human intelligence is already happening and that artificial intelligence is quickly winning.

He also believes that this trend will continue, with machines becoming more and more like their human counterparts.

So what does this mean for us humans?

Are we becoming obsolete?

Frost believes that, in the next decade or so, we may see the start of a trend where machines become more autonomous and are able to make decisions without human intervention.

However, he also believes that there is still a place for humans in the world of artificial intelligence. Phew!

For example, he believes that humans are still better than machines when it comes to creativity and innovation.

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What advice is Allister Frost offering around the subject of ‘keeping up’ amid the rise of AI (artificial intelligence)?

There are some specific themes around the rise of robots in this episode, and how they pertain to the illustrations of the issue that we’ve seen played out on the big screen through the Terminator movies.

Yet, there’s also a more subtle, almost romantic sub plot buried among Allister’s teachings.

One of those is the importance of the human race to adapt and ‘keep up’.

The message is quite clear.

We’re facing a battle of artificial intelligence vs human intelligence.

One will reign supreme and maintain control. 

So you might as well ready yourself to take on that upcoming fight for relevance.

You are the only person who can make a change in your life. You may not be able to do it overnight, but with persistence and determination, you will get there eventually.

Every individual has control over their own destiny; this includes choosing what they want for themselves as well as making decisions about how far down that path they should go before turning back or moving forward onto new ground.

Whether it’s breaking habits like smoking cigarettes (or anything else) which have been embedded into us from childhood through peer pressure amongst other things OR deciding on foods better suited towards weight loss since giving up eating ‘comfort zones’ entirely isn’t always easy.

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The significance of Buddhist themes within this episode

Allister makes a lot of mentions of a zen Buddhism principle named “Shoshin” which is a method for sparking off a beginner’s mind.

Allister is quite clear about the importance of this principle within his approach to life.

Here’s a taster of what’s discussed…

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“Experts can see lots of reasons why things are not possible. The absolute beginner is saying well, that might work. We could give that a try. And I wonder if this would happen. And actually, sometimes that’s deeply inefficient. To have a beginner’s mind, you need the expertise as well.”

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Are you aware of the genius of soap?

You’ve read that correctly.

Soap is an absolute miracle.

No, seriously, it is.

There’s a whole scientific basis behind that statement too.

Again, you really need to hear the whole thing, but…

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“At the molecular level, the molecules kind of got two ends. It’s got a hydrophobic end and a hydrophilic end. So hydrophobic means phobic, Hydro, water fear. So it keeps away from water. And hydrophilic means it attaches itself to water. It’s drawn to water. So when you put soap and water together, the molecules, the soap molecules, if you like, kind of one end attaches itself to the water and the other end tries to get as far away from the water as possible. So when you blow a soap bubble, this magical, because what you end up with is an outer layer of soap.”

You’d be forgiven for thinking it’s a bit mad that in an article about the battle of artificial intelligence vs human intelligence that we’d suddenly go on about soap.

But if you listen to the episode, it’ll make total sense, honest.

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Ok great but still… what about this whole battle of artificial intelligence vs human intelligence?

Ahh yes, the burning topic!

Well, no spoilers, but it turns out the movies aren’t a million miles away from the truth on this.

Pretty soon, the machines are going to be in charge.

We can’t avoid this fact.

It’s happening.

It’s not even a question of ‘if’, it’s a question of when.

And Allister reckons it’ll probably be sooner than we all think.

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“Most computer scientists will reckon that will happen in the next 100 years or so. Some people say it will never happen. But given the way that mankind evolves with technology, it’s likely to happen for many of us in our lifetime. Certainly any child born today will likely live to see artificial superintelligence where there are computers that frankly have the ability to look down on us, mere humans, as if we were a cat or a dog, like a family pet.”

You’ll learn….

 This episode of “Making Conversations Count”, in which Allister Frost shares his views and insights on artificial intelligence and ‘keeping up’, covers:

  • The ‘new normal’
  • What is artificial intelligence, really?
  • The future of AI and ‘artificial general intelligence’ that passes the Turing test
  • How Allister applies Buddhism in his work
  • The genius of soap
  • Allister’s conversation that counted – (and some brilliantly simple business advice for any business owner!)

 

So, Wendy’s takeaway from the conversation in this episode about the battle of artificial intelligence vs human intelligence with Allister Frost?…

“A conversation full of sparkly insights into how technology is affecting our lives and how we need to embrace the changes that are to come. 

Our financial transactions are not necessarily being handled by Rishi Sunak.

I’m totally not going to ruin the joke here.

You’ll have to listen to the episode to hear it…

I particularly love the chat around the Buddhist term of Shoshin meaning “beginner’s mind”.

It was fascinating learning about how it refers to having an attitude of openness, eagerness, and lack of preconceptions.

Allister adopts this method with clients looking to embrace change in their business.”

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Spoiler alert: want to read the conversation that counted in this episode about how to keep up with Allister Frost?…

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Wendy Harris

 

I ask everybody that comes on the show for that one conversation that created a turning point. This is where I go… and drumroll…. please over to you Allister.

 

Allister Frost

 

My defining conversation. I reflect on it very often, so it’s one that I should talk about with you. I was at Microsoft. I’d been there for ten years. I knew I was leaving. I was attending an event in London, a very good speaking event. I was interested in becoming a speaker. So I was listening to some speakers and I chatted with a guy outside, if I remember writing, he was quite drunk and he was smoking a cigarette. And I thought, all right, what are you doing here? And chat. And he was an entrepreneur and he started several businesses. So I explained, I’m going to leave the car for a while. I might start my own business. He said, all right, I’ve got some advice for you. How’s all ears. He said, there’s only three things that you need to do to have a successful business, the sort of thing you want to do. And as I know, you’ve got many entrepreneurs on your listeners. So then this may be helpful for them. He said, three things you need to do with this. First, you need to get the business. Then secondly, you need to do the business. And thirdly, you need to get paid for the business. That’s it. That’s all you got to do. And he took another big drag of his cigarette, sapped a bit more of his beer. And I was thinking, is that it’s pretty easy. Get the business, do the business, and get paid for the business. Then he said, problem is, if you’re sitting out on your own, you’re doing your own thing. You will only be able to do two of those three things. Promise you why? Because they all take about the same amount of time, but you’ll die. You’re trying to do all three of those things. You’re going to need to get some help because you can’t do all three of them. And this is where the clever thing was. I hadn’t factored in after years in the corporate world, how much work you have to put in to get the business, to get a new client, to land that client, to convert it into something meaningful. That’s good for both of you. I had no idea. Doing the business is all I’d ever done. Boss gave you a task or a job, came in, you were doing the business. That’s all you do in the corporate world. And then the third one get paid for the business. I again had no idea how long it can take sometimes to get money out of a client and to close the job if you like, and get the business. Also the accounting of that all of the stuff that you have to do. So get the business, do the business, and get paid for the business are three equal things. And I get help mostly on the last one, getting paid for the business. So accountants and my wife helps with the books in the business and things like that. I generally try to focus on getting the business and doing the business, but they are equal things. And any time my business is going slightly off the ball, it’s not quite working. It’s because I’ve neglected one of those two things. I’ve been focused on one or the other, and I find it so true. I my business have to put equal amounts of focus on each of those three things, and I need help to do all three.

 

Wendy Harris

 

There’s a quote that goes, if you can accomplish everything you want in life by yourself, your dream is too small.

 

Allister Frost

 

That’s nice.

 

Wendy Harris

 

So I’m guessing that is that you do need help.

 

Allister Frost

 

Yeah. I think a lot of us are very reluctant to do that, particularly when you’re starting out because somebody else’s help is going to cost money. I’m here. I’ve got nothing to do. So I’ll ever go being a Jack of all trades is a disaster, really I think for many business owners, if you need some photography, you’ll always get better results from using a photographer. If you need some writing, you’ll get better results from a writer. And so it goes on. And you have to really be prepared to work with other people and to use their skills when it will benefit you. It will always give you better results.

 

Wendy Harris

 

It’s a misconception, isn’t it, to think that you’re going to be leaving a corporate world where there are the sum of all parts, doing all of those things, just being on your own and doing it. It’s the same formula, it’s just made up differently, isn’t it? The landscape is just a little bit different.

 

Allister Frost

 

I think my advice to any listeners who are in a business or running a business or thinking of doing it, is to really be prepared to work with other people, try to collaborate, try to find smart ways to do it and really to focus. If you’ve got those three things, get the business through the business, get paid for the business. Where’s your heart at. What do you enjoy? Some people really, really love the admin and the accounting and the numbers and the business planning and stuff and great crack on with that. But you’re not always going to be able to get the business. You know, you’re going to need some help from some business development people or you’re going to have to social media team, I don’t know. You’re going to need somebody to handle some of the other aspects of the business. And that was a hugely important conversation for me because it made me realise that, actually, yes, running my own business can be profoundly simple if I want it to be, but I’ve got to go into the right mindset. I can’t do it all on my own.

 

Wendy Harris

 

And to do all three, it’s a stretch of your time and abilities, isn’t it? So if you can get somebody else who loves doing the bit that you don’t, then all three bits are singing.

 

Allister Frost

 

The more time you spend doing the one or two things that you really enjoy, the more you bring in.

 

Wendy Harris

 

Right.

 

Allister Frost

 

And you can afford to pay somebody to do other stuff. It’s a really hard lesson to learn in the early days, particularly for someone like me, who had been closed to in the corporate world for 20 years, frankly, had it easy and suddenly had to do all of this stuff and work it out.

 

Wendy Harris

 

Yes, it is a big learning curve. So the one question I have to ask you then, Alistair, is did you buy him another pint?

 

Allister Frost

 

I think I did, actually. I think I bought him a bottle of beer and we carried on the conversation. But it was those early words, those first words that just echoed in my mind that day and so many years afterwards, and they’ve really stuck. And, yeah, that’s well over ten years ago, I had that conversation, the best and most succinct bit of business advice I ever got.

 

Wendy Harris

 

Well, I can’t thank you enough for coming and sharing that with us today. It’s been delightful, it’s been full of spark this conversation as we promised. So if anybody wants to carry on the conversation with you, Alastair, Where’s the best place for them to find you?

 

Allister Frost

 

Well, if they can spell my name, which even I struggle to do, they can find me online@allisterspeaks.com. And the problem is my parents gave me an Alistair that’s spelled A-L-L-I-S-T-E-R so allisterspeaks.com and you’ll find me online. If you can type in Allister Frost on a website, you’ve got a pretty good chance of finding me as well.

 

Wendy Harris

 

Well, we will make sure that we put all the details in the show notes and on our own website too. Do carry on the conversation with Allister.

 

 

 

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Blaine Oelkers

You’ll read about:

 

You’ll hear:

 

Blaine and his TEDx Talk (1m02s)

Chief Results Officer? (3m47s)

Observations of business owners and entrepreneurs who struggle with results (12m19s)

Change doesn’t happen quickly enough but stick at it because it’s worth it! (23m25s)

Blaines’s conversation that counts (30m13s)

 

Blaine and his TEDx Talk (1m02s)

Wendy

We all have these little idiosyncrasies that we like to hang on to... 21 seconds... an hour. If I was to say to my daughter, you've got all day to tie to your bedroom, guess what? It takes her all day to tidy her bedroom. So it's got to be the same in business. If you tell me I've only got 20 minutes to do something, I'll get it done with spare time!

 

Blaine

Yes. Everything from when people argue for the limitations they get to keep them, to it's the lens that you look through that actually creates your life. So I call it the lens of the future, but that is so key. And then finding practical ways to program the subconscious mind to help you. Right. I did a TEDx Talk where I asked people to change the unlock screen on their phone. And so now, for years, I've been getting great feedback from people saying that made a big difference in their life. So whatever you're trying to bring about, you put that on your unlock screen. You can also have your family stuff, and then you can make a customized image. But many people have nothing. They have, like, the default unlock screen, which is interesting, but you see that screen, you unlock your phone 60 to 150 times a day. So it's a real strong way to keep putting what you want to bring about, what you think about what you bring about. It's a way to program that subconscious, but it's super powerful, and you're so right. That how you see it creates the reality. And if people get that, that's a big breakthrough.

 

Wendy

Confession time. I did the unlock screen on my phone, and it was a picture of myself in actual fact, when I felt that I looked the best, I was slimmer, no Covid pounds. And it has been working because initially I was looking at it and thinking, this is I really don't like this. But it has had an impact. It's changed with what I eat, the what I drink, the getting up and moving more. So I'd say to anybody, just give it a try!

 

Blaine

 

Yeah. Agreed. A lot of this stuff is self evident. Just try it for a little while. And you may not see it consciously, but your subconscious mind is still seeing it. And maybe you change it. Maybe you turn it to the side or you add some words to it. You can also kind of mix it up. I like to mix mine up every couple of weeks, but it's having the same core thing on there,

 

Chief Results Officer? (3m47s)

 

Wendy

No, it is interesting. So what got you to become the chief Results officer then, Blaine?

 

Blaine

So, for me, there were two moments of dawning comprehension where the world changes almost on a single thought. And for me, the first one came in college. I went to Purdue University in West Lafayette, Indiana, and I've always been kind of maybe like you and the listeners. I've been a little bit of a seeker, a seeker of knowledge. How can I do better? What could I do better? And so I saw this ad for an audio cassette tape. So I'm kind of dating myself. This was back in the 80s, but when I went to college and I sent away for this audio cassette, which was an abridged version of "Think and Grow Rich", it was actually this guy Earl Nightingale reading "Think and Grow Rich". And I got that audio tape, and then I subsequently purchased the book, and I realised there that "Think and Grow Rich". Now, the book is about Think and Grow Rich, but the riches can be anything. It could be financial, he talks about that, but it could be harmonious relationships, your health. And that's where this concept of what you think about you bring about. That was where I first got that. And I realized, now, wait a second, I'm in a lot more control than I realized. And I had a lot of success because of that initial reading of that book. And actually, I met my wife. We've been married 30 years, so I met her.

 

Wendy

Congratulations.

 

Blaine

Yes. That was kind of the first thing that started me on the journey there and started kind of taking control of myself a little bit more. But then the big change, the big dawning comprehension moment number two. I came back from a business trip, my degree's in computer science, I was working as a software engineer, and I came back from this long business trip, and my son Beau, he was one year old, and he was, like, giving me the cold shoulder when I came back. And I said, hey, Beth, what's going on? What's wrong with Beau here? And she said, well, you were gone so long, he kind of forgot who you were. And I was like, what? I mean, that hit me emotionally pretty hard at night. And I realized when I was a kid, I'd come home to an empty house. Both my parents worked. And so that night I had this moment of dawning comprehension, and I made a clarifying decision. Now, when you make a clarifying decision, it kind of like, cuts out a lot of other decisions, cuts out a lot of noise and really focuses you almost like a laser on one thing. And that decision was that I was going to be a work from home dad. And so it took me a year. It took me a year to get there because we were kind of conservative and wanted to save up enough money and have living expenses in the bank. But anyway, a year later, my wife said, if you can make more on your side hustle thing, whatever you're doing here from home, and you make more money at that than you do from the job or even the same, then you can go, you can cut away the job. So I did that. So it took me a year, but I did that and I left my job. And that was 27 years ago. And so for the last 27 years, I've been working from home, running businesses that really have no daily operations. So I've been able to do a lot of self development and that's what led me on the course to become the Chief Results Officer. I started helping people. I created a company called Selfluence, which is really kind of the art and science of influencing yourself. But more than that, it's the power that you already have to influence yourself. You don't need any special software, you don't have to buy anything else. You have it all kind of within you. And I started helping a lot of mastermind groups and they said, hey, you're helping us get results every week. We're going to call you the Chief Results Officer. I'm like. Oh, I like that. So I like the title. I took the title and then I went to the US Patent Office and I registered the title. So now I can say I'm America's only Chief Results officer. But anyway, I've been doing that and I think that's why I'm here. I think God has me on the planet to help people take control of their lives by taking control of themselves. So that's what I've been doing. Now, pretty much 27 years from home, kids are out of the nest now, so I have a lot more time to serve clients than I did before, but I really do enjoy it.

 

Wendy

What a benefit for Beau, really? And gosh, we say this so often on this show is that there are things that you can do that can help and aid us, but ultimately it comes back to self. It doesn't matter. So you're saying that you decided to do something. Reminds me of Rob Begg who's a past guest as well. He's also a mindset expert and he says if you decide, you've also got to commit and that's effectively what you've done. So there's a lot of entrepreneurs out there that I think they decide that they're going to work for themselves, but they don't commit. Do you see that it goes hand in hand?

 

Blaine

I do. And I think there's a third component, and that is the action right there. There's a famous joke. Three birds are sitting on a tree, one decides to fly off. How many birds are left? And the audience typically says two, but no three. One made a decision, but they didn't fly off, they didn't take the action right. So I think what you think about, you bring about that. It's a combination of you make the decision right, and then you need to commit to that decision, but your commitment shows up in action. And so it's the action steps you take that kind of determine if it's real or not. And I will say that many decisions and desires kind of die on the vine because they're not strong enough for that person. And you can tell they're not strong enough if they don't want to wake up early, stay up late, and really put the action behind it. Right? And that's where you see the people really begin to move forward, because it's even taking the action. Even if you're going in the wrong direction, at least you're moving. They say you can't steer a parked car. You got to be moving. You got to take action. And it's in the action that really you kind of learn more about it, and then it can either grow, or you might realize that you're heading in the wrong direction. But that's okay, because it's in the knowing of where you're going. That's the fun part. And I like to tell people, you can't change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction. So if you figure out where you want to go, you can point in that direction and then start to move there. But in turning and facing, like, whatever it is you really want in life, you're going to feel the energy chemically. You're going to get excited about it, you're going to feel it.

 

Wendy

It's a bit like stepping out into the sunshine, isn't it, and feeling it on your face. It is that much of an impact. But that's great course correction, isn't it? If we have these navigation systems built in, we are also tied to the magnetic force. So why do you think we have moved away so far from what comes naturally to us? Blaine, what's your take on that?

 

Blaine

When you can get back to these core things? It feels good, it feels right. But today, more so than any time in the history of the world, is that there are so many distractions, and the level of distractions are so high. And everybody that I know has one of these, which is a smartphone, a cell phone. And so that can be like the greatest tool of productivity or the most evil distraction machine known to man or woman. For me, it's the level of distractions number one, and the loss of think time. That would probably be number two. Of time where you are... it's almost like more shower time, where there's no phones, there's no electronics, there's no outside world. People need more of that. I tell them, your phone has airplane mode. That's not just for airplanes. You can use it during the week, too. But I think lack of Think Time and distractions are the two things that pull you away, maybe even from who you are, who you want to be, your self development. So switching, that is possible, right? So switching, removing distractions. Right. So my family isn't super happy about it, but I've removed all the rings. Dings and dings. My phone never rings. If I'm expecting a call, maybe I'll look for that. But typically, I never answer the phone, and I've really cut down the distractions, number one. And then number two is I put a lot of think time back into my day and into my life and I think that makes a big difference.

 

Observations of business owners and entrepreneurs who struggle with results (12m19s)

 

Wendy

What's your observation then, Blaine, of working with entrepreneurs and business owners that are struggling with that productivity and getting the results that they need? What's the first place that you sort of get them to be doing something slightly different?

 

Blaine

I serve primarily business owners and the number one problem is overwhelm. Too many things to do and they're typically a day behind or more than a day behind things. And so what I like to do is first of all, show them that there is something to go after and I call it a day ahead. And so I like to take entrepreneurs from being a day behind to just being behind to being caught up, to being ahead to being a day ahead. And there is this thing, I call it the day ahead lifestyle which I live most days now, not every day, but most days I'm a day ahead. So when I wake up there may be some appointments like this podcast, but all the to-do's are done. Like I have no to-do's for the day and I'm working on tomorrow's to-do's. And so this concept of moving into that just first of all know that it's possible to be a day ahead. And my wife is back in school now getting a master's degree and she likes to be a week or two weeks ahead on homework and other things so you can get there. But the first thing is you've got to handle the overwhelm. And so typically what I see that works the best is to do some kind of a mind dump of all these things that you have to do. Now if you just do a mind dump alone, you're going to be more overwhelmed but guide them through. So get out a piece of paper and start to write down what are all the things that are top of mind. They're swimming around, oh, I've got to do this for this client or I got to do that. I've got these appointments, I've got to do this with the products, whatever it is. You have all these things swimming around and write all those things down and spend at least 15 minutes doing that and then take maybe a five minute break and then come back, maybe go a little bit deeper. Also, sometimes I provide a lot of prompts, a lot of questions to kind of pull more and more stuff out of your head and get it on paper. So the last time I did that in a big way, I ended up with 453 items on my list.

 

Wendy

Wow!

 

Blaine

Super overwhelming. Look out. Yikes. But the key is that you must immediately process the list. So it's in the immediate processing of the list that the overwhelm begins to subside. Because what I mean by processing the list is that you put an end next to things you can do now, something that takes less than five minutes. If it's a bigger project, I also say, look, why don't you write to the right of it? What's the next step on that? It might just be scheduled meeting with so and so, send somebody an email, something that's quick and fast. But you write an N next to those things that you can do now, and then you write an S next to things that need to be scheduled. They need to be done in the next, let's say, a week or so. And then D is next to things that you can delegate, you can give to someone else. Not that you're going to do it, but you could do it. It's possible to delegate. And then L, which should be the most used letter of all, stands for later. And those are things that are not pressing, let's say, in this week. Now, sometimes people do it just for the day. Like, what am I going to do today? Some people might do it for a month or a quarter. But one of those things that you can let go a little bit, you can put on the later list. And most of the time, like out of my 400, I don't know, probably 300, something of those were later items. But they're out of my head now and they're on paper. And then what happens is then you go after you take maybe 30 minutes and do a bunch of the Ns, get a little... start winning the battle of the brain chemicals, get the dopamine going, the serotonin, you're getting stuff done, you're moving forward. Then the bigger ones, you schedule those into your calendar, maybe you see what the next small step is again, win early, win often. And that starts to get them out of the overwhelm and get them into kind of high value, productive action. That's one thing I do. The other thing is that all entrepreneurs and business owners, most people, want to compress time. And so I do have a framework called the 30 Minutes Hour. It's how to get an hour's worth of stuff done in just 30 minutes. So sometimes I walk them through that framework as well, because if they can compress time, they're winning.

 

Wendy

Yeah, there's a lot about what you've said there that comes back to feeling in control of the situation, isn't it? And thinking is just energy, isn't it? You've got all these thoughts and they're just randomly popping in and out of your attention span... by putting them down on paper makes perfect sense because you can look and it not take up your attention of worrying about it because you've already decided how you're going to do something with it. Is it next? Is it later? Is it a big thing? But it frees your energy up to be laser focused on the tasks that you really do need to do. And there's just that feeling of striking off things off your list, isn't there? That satisfaction of done that, done that... the fact that you've gotten to the end of a list is an achievement itself. But getting into the habit of doing that on a daily basis, that's got to be where the results are coming from.

 

Blaine

Yes, you're exactly right about those open loops and all that thing that's swimming around in your head that you have to keep remembering, right? And when you get rid of those things now you've got some more room, some more capacity and you even feel better, like you said. And then also you're right about the checking off the list. A lot of times I'll ask business owners, have you ever done something and it's not on your list but you write it on your list so you could check it off? We've all kind of done that. But that gives us the dopamine that like physically shows up. You get a little square of dopamine in your brain and it feels good. Your body, your mind, it wants you to get stuff done, right? So it rewards that. So you are right. And a lot of it is how you think and what you think about you bring about and how you think makes all the difference and actually changes your reality. I call it the lens of the future. But how you say or say to yourself or how you think the prediction of the future is going to go, that is what you're going to end up creating, right? So the story I like to tell about that is let's say that I say, Wendy, look, I'm sorry but today is going to be one of the worst days of your life. And so then you go out and you're like, I don't know if Blaine's right or not. And then you're almost hit by a car and you say, wow, look, Blaine was right. I was almost hit by the car and you're shaking and you're like, oh my, what else is going to happen? And physically, brain chemical wise and physically, you get scared and you kind of get small and you're worried about the rest of the day right? Now if the same morning I said to you, Wendy, today is going to be one of the best days of your life. You're looking through a different lens but the same thing happens. You're almost hit by the car and you go, well Blaine was right. I was saved. Like, why was I saved? God still has something for me to do on this planet. I'm still here. And then you're exuberant. Now there's a little fear from the accident almost happening but right out of that you come up and you're not down, you're up. And the brain chemicals and your physiology is all like, this is a great day, what else is going to happen? Great. And so the same circumstances happened, but you created the reality based on the lens that you're looking through, and that is some of the biggest brain science and discoveries that are happening now is that you create that world based on that lens. So have you found that to be true in your...

 

Wendy

Yeah, all the time. For me it comes down to language and it can be habitual. It's conditioned what we pick up from other people. You know that saying of who you surround yourself with, if that's negative, then that brings you down. I'm a positive kind of person in the main and it's hard if you're the only positive person sort of bringing the negative people up as well. So yeah, for me it's an energy thing. Everything is around energy and if you use the wrong language, it's like saying, oh, I nearly got hit by a car, but Blaine said it was a good day. You go, my luck was in and yet, it's got absolutely nothing to do with that. So it reminds me a little bit of the Matrix movie series that literally you can design the life that you want. How badly do you want it?

 

Blaine

Yeah, agreed. And you're right about the people you hang around with. And I'm all for helping people, but I don't like maybe a third of the time I can be around people that are, let's say, at a lower frequency and have issues and I want to help them. And then a third of the time I like to be around people kind of my own energy level. And then another third of the time though, I want that higher energy. Right. I want to be kind of like you said, moving up and it can be tough. The other thing is if you're stuck in that lower energy or in that I call it head trash...

 

Wendy

It's a good term.

 

Blaine

Yeah, everybody has head trash. Now, my head trash, because I do a lot of things, is small and it's in the corner, but it's still there. And actually I do this thing called a mind shower every morning to kind of take the head trash out. But I like to tell people who are stuck with a lot of head trash that the solution to pollution is dilution. So if you ever see like if there's a liquid, a dark liquid in a beaker, the more clear water they add, it'll get less and less and less and less and soon it will be clear. What I find is the ratio is different for everybody. Like I need maybe a five to one ratio. So if I have 1 hour around negative people and bad things, I need 5 hours of positive. I got to pour in the positive to dilute down that negative. But realize that it is a bit of a battle, but like you said, what are you pouring in? Who are the people you around? What are you listening to? What are you watching? What foods are you eating? That all has energy and vibration, too. So you can really pour in so much of the higher vibration stuff that it does begin to minimize and kind of there's this little point where it'll flip over and you'll feel like you're in control of those thoughts rather than those thoughts and that negativity being in charge of you.

 

Change doesn’t happen quickly enough but stick at it because it’s worth it! (23m25s)

 

Wendy

And you're right, really. That energy, the dark water into the clear, that's like recharging a battery, isn't it? When you need to go and find some positive to sort of just, you know... and I would say that people give up too soon. You can be adding clear water in and adding positivity into that dark water. And it could just be that you're just frustrated that the change is not happening quick enough. Please just stick at it because it's worth it.

 

Blaine

Yeah, it is worth it. And realize that there's some people that will pour the dark ink back in the water, right? So you have to start to guard the inputs of your life, guard the inputs of your brain and your body. Because sometimes people don't even mean to do it. It's unconscious to them, but they are negative towards you or low energy.. so yeah keep pouring the positive and keep pouring it in big doses. I remember my favorite mentor is this guy Jim Rohn... I don't know if you remember...

 

Wendy

Yeah, I know Jim Rohn.

 

Blaine

Yeah, he's my favorite guy. I got to meet him and host him at an event one time and for him, he had this series, it's called The Power of Ambition, which I listened to on audio cassettes. Again, back to the dating myself. But I listened to that program 50 times in a row because I was at a point in my life where that's what I needed and I could finish the sentences of that program, but that's what I needed. That's what I needed to really get through some tough times. I mentioned before that I broke free from my job. But if you realize at that point we had a one year old son, I had a 50 hours week job and I started two other businesses at the same time. I mean, my marriage almost didn't make it through that year. So now we made it through that year and many others. But there are times where you got to lean into something, leaning into a mentor or whatever that positive thing is for you. But today there's so much available online and through things like Audible.com and podcasts like this, I mean, fantastic stuff that you can be pouring in that positive on a constant basis and you can do it at the same time as doing something else, right? You're driving in the car, pour in the positive. You're exercising poor in the positive, doing household chores pouring the positive. My wife and I were cleaning this weekend, and I was listening to a book on tape and just pouring in the positive.

 

Wendy

Yeah, no, Neal, the producer, he'll be laughing at this now because he basically says, Wendy, in your world, there is no room for excuses. And there isn't really, because I understand that people can get into a position or a situation and not realize that they've gotten there, but there is always something that you can do to get yourself out of that. There are no excuses.

 

Blaine

I like to say, when I lost my excuses, I found my results. That's a little quote I like to say. And you're right. And the other thing people need to be clear on is it's all about you compared to you, not you compared to other people. Now, if you want to change your happiness, you can compare yourself. Right. So if my ego is getting too big, then my wife can say, well, how much money does Oprah make every year? Okay? Yeah. I'm very small. But the opposite is also true, is if I'm feeling down, my wife can say, how many of your friends have no job and the freedom that you have. Right. In that comparison, you can regulate your happiness, but for your results, it is best to compare you to you. Right. Let's just better your best. And for me, this definition of success is kind of you moving towards your goal, whatever that is. So it's very personal, whatever that personal goal is. And if you find yourself in this situation, you can begin to move out of that situation and celebrate just maybe those first steps out of that situation. Right, so you're comparing yourself to you. So, yes, you can change direction overnight, and then you can begin to make measurable progress in a reasonable amount of time as compared to where you are. Right. And so, yeah, I think that's a valid point on happiness. And then also, no excuses for you getting better. Now you're human, so you're going to have bad days. That's right. But you just want to ride again, get back on the horse, ride again, and ride a little bit better. Figure out some way that you can ride a little bit better. So you go a little bit longer and you get a little bit closer to where you want to be and who you want to be.

 

Wendy

And like you said at the very beginning, Blaine, growing rich and success is not necessarily about numbers in a bank balance. It can be how you want to live and who you want to live that with. Your reasons why.

 

Blaine

Yes. Maslow's hierarchy of needs is there. I mean, you need a certain amount of money for food and shelter and those things, and if you're struggling there, then there's a lot of help. Right? I mean, the Internet, podcasts like this, books like Think and Grow Rich, there's a lot of resources there. But you have to take the step like you have to have the desire and then, as we said earlier, make the decision, commit to the decision, but then take some action behind that decision. Right. And when you feed the decision with action, then you're going to find out, is this really something good for me or not? And most people find that it is. And then they start moving forward. And then it's funny that when you start moving forward, it's kind of a little slow and slogging in the beginning, but as you get out of the mud and you get out of that and you start to go faster and faster and faster, typically then things start to move really fast. That's exciting as I see that in people when they adopt, say, a new habit and then all of a sudden now everything else in their life is kind of taking off.

 

Wendy

It is just about making that start. If you make the start, you're already ahead of where you were.

 

Blaine

Yes.

 

Blaines’s conversation that counts (30m13s)

 

Wendy

It seems only right, really, at this juncture, to ask you about a conversation that created a turning point for you. I've got a feeling that it may link to what you were talking about with your career change and things like that, but you might surprise me because of course I never know what's coming next.

 

Blaine

That's exciting.

 

Wendy

So what was that one conversation that changed your life either for business or for personal?

 

Blaine

It started as a conversation and changed my life. And that was actually Jim Rohn. And so Jim Rohn, a friend of mine, introduced me to Jim Rohn and then I was able to actually host him at an event I was running. And I got lucky because he had a house in the Phoenix area and this event was in Phoenix and he happened to be there. So it was very easy for him to come to this event. And so he came to that event and I got to hear him and share the stage with him. But the things that he said that evening had a big impact on me. Right. And one of the things he says is it's not what happens that determines your life future, it's what you do about what happens. And that was the beginning of kind of the lens conversation as well. But he said that, so it's not what happens that determines your life future, it's what you do about what happens. And I realized in that moment, I realized that I didn't have to worry about circumstances, the economy, the pandemics, and all these different things that's going to happen to everybody actually. But it's my response to what happens that determines the outcome of my life and my businesses. And then he went on to say the other thing he said that night was don't wish it was easier, wish you were better. And I was like, Whoa, that was big. Don't wish for less problems, wish for more wisdom. And he just got me to switch it to see that praying and begging for things to be better or easier, that was just going to fix the thing one time. If I increased my wisdom and I got better, that's going to increase everything for the rest of my life. And so that started me on a nice trajectory. But it was that conversation that night with Jim Rohn that I think led me to this course of becoming the Chief Results Officer. Now, having the time to do that with my son. Having the inputs was the "Think and Grow Rich" book. But it was that conversation that night. He also said, profits are better than wages. And I was like, oh, poof, I've got to do more of my own business. So that was it.

 

Wendy

Wow. I know, previous guest Brad Sugars, he was influenced by Jim in a big way, and he talked about that on the show as well. Isn't it interesting, because we've already kind of touched on this, that just by switching your language out just changes the end results of what you want to be creating.

 

Blaine

Agreed. And a couple of years ago, I read this one book called The One Thing by a guy named Keller, and in there he said and some people say different ways he says, when you argue for your limitations, you get to keep them. It was just that language right there. That's where I realized, now, wait a second, let me say that again. Let me hear that for real. When you argue for your limitations, you get to keep them. And so what happened is that was the trigger for me kind of processing my own language, right? So if I start to say, I'm too old, I'm too this, I'm too that, I can't this, I can't that, won't all that almost negative kind of self talk. And it was on big things and small things, I realized it was almost like the predefeated mind, I'm never going to try that thing, because I've just accepted that limitation. And then I started hearing that language in other people, and now I can't go anywhere without hearing people arguing for their limitations all the time. But it's gotten so good in our family or in some businesses, masterminds that I work with, they'll say, oh, now Blaine is going to say you're arguing for your limitations there. But that consciousness around what you say is so big, and that can be kind of that pivotal point in your life, is when you start to listen to and process that self talk. That's big.

 

Wendy

Yeah. Awareness. Self awareness. It can be a real driving force... or not. Well, thank goodness for Jim Rohn. Honestly. Thank you, Blaine, for sharing your story and so many different productivity hacks that we can apply to our own business and go away. I'm going to just go and sort out my mind trash later. I got to do another dump.

 

Blaine

And I will say, look... on the head trash. The thing that has helped me the most and my clients is really that concept of the mind shower. Meaning like most people take a physical shower every day, but how often do you take a Mind Shower where you kind of wash out your mind and take out the head trash? Now there's apps. I use an app called Headspace, kind of a meditation breathing app, but I do that every single day. And I've done that now because the app tracks like 1500 days in a row. I've done this Mind Shower, just a little thing like that. Now I like a ten minute Mind Shower, but if I don't have time, I'll do a three minute Mind Shower. But doing that, I do that first thing in the morning, every morning. And that's made a big difference because I feel like at the beginning of the day, I'm kind of taking control of my mind showering it out, cleaning it out a little bit, but then also getting that lens ready for the day to make the most from the day.

 

Wendy

Yes, it fits with your computer science background as well. It's almost like you're defragging the system and every day just hit reset. And then that head trash writing everything down in such a big overwhelm. It's not going to be that big anymore, is it? Because you've already got a handle on it, right?

 

Blaine

Agreed.

 

Wendy

I've had an absolute blast. I know who to reach out to now when I need either some head trash or a Mind Shower. Thank you.

 

Blaine

I have thoroughly enjoyed this and I just want to take a moment to thank you. This is not easy to put all this stuff together and put it online and you have a big results ripple, queen of conversations here. You have a big results ripple and I will bet that you are touching lives not yet born that somebody 20 or 30 years from now is going to find this stuff and it's going to make a difference. So I want to congratulate you on that and leave you with this. That the bad news. The bad news is time flies. The good news, you're the pilot. So pilot well.

 

Wendy

Thank you. I've got to go and cry now.

 

 

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ENGLISH: “There are lots of things that computers can do much more efficiently than humans. And you can eradicate lots of repetitive low skilled jobs because we can get more out of human beings. People do low skilled jobs because we need people to do low skilled jobs. It’s not because the people aren’t capable of being skilled. They don’t want to do those low skilled jobs either, do they? No. Very much so. The low skilled jobs, a lot of them can go away. And that might be everything from sweeping roads to buildings, creating construction, all sorts of things, manufacturing, production lines, things like that. Those jobs can go away. That frees up more human capital to actually apply itself and do something useful. ..”

ARABIC: هناك الكثير من الأشياء التي يمكن لأجهزة الكمبيوتر القيام بها بكفاءة أكبر بكثير من البشر. ويمكنك القضاء على الكثير من الوظائف المتكررة التي تتطلب مهارات منخفضة لأننا نستطيع الاستفادة بشكل أكبر من البشر. يقوم الأشخاص بوظائف تتطلب مهارات منخفضة لأننا نحتاج إلى أشخاص يقومون بوظائف تتطلب مهارات منخفضة . ليس لأن الناس غير قادرين على أن يكونوا ماهرين. إنهم لا يريدون القيام بتلك الوظائف التي تتطلب مهارات منخفضة أيضًا ، أليس كذلك؟ لا. كثيرًا. الوظائف التي تتطلب مهارات منخفضة ، يمكن أن يختفي الكثير منها. و قد يكون هذا كل شيء من تجتاح الطرق إلى المباني ، وإنشاء الإنشاءات ، وجميع أنواع الأشياء ، والتصنيع ، وخطوط الإنتاج ، وأشياء من هذا القبيل. يمكن أن تختفي هذه الوظائف. وهذا يحرر المزيد من رأس المال البشري لتطبيق نفسه فعليًا والقيام بشيء مفيد. 

 

SPANISH: Hay muchas cosas que las computadoras pueden hacer mucho más eficientemente que los humanos. Y puedes erradicar muchos trabajos repetitivos de baja calificación porque podemos sacar más provecho de los seres humanos. Las personas hacen trabajos de baja calificación porque necesitamos personas que hagan trabajos de baja calificación”. No es porque la gente no sea capaz de ser calificada. Tampoco quieren hacer esos trabajos poco calificados, ¿verdad? No. Mucho. Los trabajos poco calificados, muchos de ellos pueden desaparecer. Y eso podría ser todo, desde barrer caminos hasta edificios, crear construcciones, todo tipo de cosas, manufactura, líneas de producción, cosas así. Esos trabajos pueden desaparecer. Eso libera más capital humano para que realmente se aplique y haga algo útil..“.

 

FRENCH: “Il y a beaucoup de choses que les ordinateurs peuvent faire beaucoup plus efficacement que les humains. Et vous pouvez éradiquer beaucoup d’emplois répétitifs peu qualifiés parce que nous pouvons tirer le meilleur parti des êtres humains. Les gens font des emplois peu qualifiés parce que nous avons besoin de gens pour faire des emplois peu qualifiés . Ce n’est pas parce que les gens ne sont pas capables d’être qualifiés. Ils ne veulent pas non plus faire ces emplois peu qualifiés, n’est-ce pas ? Non. Tout à fait. Les emplois peu qualifiés, beaucoup d’entre eux peuvent disparaître. Et cela peut aller du balayage des routes aux bâtiments, en passant par la création de constructions, toutes sortes de choses, la fabrication, les chaînes de production, des choses comme ça. Ces emplois peuvent disparaître. Cela libère plus de capital humain pour s’appliquer et faire quelque chose d’utile. ...

GERMAN: “Es gibt viele Dinge, die Computer viel effizienter als Menschen erledigen können. Und Sie können viele sich wiederholende gering qualifizierte Jobs beseitigen, weil wir mehr aus Menschen herausholen können. Menschen erledigen gering qualifizierte Jobs, weil wir Menschen für gering qualifizierte Jobs brauchen . Es liegt nicht daran, dass die Menschen nicht in der Lage sind, qualifiziert zu sein. Sie wollen diese gering qualifizierten Jobs auch nicht ausüben, oder? Nein. Sehr sogar. Die gering qualifizierten Jobs, viele von ihnen können wegfallen. Und das kann alles sein, vom Kehren von Straßen bis hin zu Gebäuden, Bauarbeiten, alle möglichen Dinge, Fertigung, Produktionslinien, solche Dinge. Diese Jobs können wegfallen. Das setzt mehr Humankapital frei, um sich tatsächlich einzusetzen und etwas Nützliches zu tun..”

 

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Episode 14 – Dr Ivan Misner

In this episode, Ivan and Wendy explore how conversation is the foundation of all growth and learning. How times have changed, looking back and also predicting our future generations experiences, yet communication will still be the underpin even it how that looks has changed.

Janine Coombes marketing coach

Episode 15 – Janine Coombes

Google has recognised this lady as the #1 marketing coach and her video series mixes humour with key messages, it is the lovely Janine Coombes. Janine is a marketing coach for personal brands.
In this episode, Janine and Wendy share how using the right language influences the conversations we have and how it affects our results.

Lizzie Butler presentations coach

Episode 16 – Lizzie Butler

Making conversations about presentations count! Delighted to introduce Lizzie Butler, owner of LB Communications, who met Wendy at a local online networking event and immediately hit it off. Lizzie helps you to grow your business through personal development training and how to achieve brilliant communication.

Jem hills inspirational speaker

Episode 17 – Jem Hills

Making conversations about Bullying count. Jem Hills is an inspirational speaker, trainer & performance coach.
Talking to Wendy in this episode is ex-marine Jem Hills who you might find it hard to believe was affected by bullying and a lack of confidence. As a release Jem discovered Northern dancing and practiced as a bedroom activity that later led to an accidental release of freestyle dancing at a competition. The dancing-built resilience and the foundations for the training to complete the Mud Run and onto his Elite Special Forces career.

Peter howard graphic design

Episode 18 – Peter Howard

Peter Howard runs a design studio that is ranked in the top 100 in the country and was responsible for the WAG brand. Having known Peter and his team for many years, Wendy has heard lots of his stories but knew there would be one she had not heard before.

Taz Thornton & Asha Clearwater business coaches

Episode 19 – Taz Thornton & Asha Clearwater

Making conversations about partnerships count. In a Making Conversations Count first, we are joined by two dynamic guests in this episode. Both Taz & Asha provide business coach services in different areas. Joining Wendy chatting about all the elements that make up a great debate. You are not going to want to miss the observations with Taz Thornton and Asha Clearwater around questioning, opinions, debate and discernment that makes for wonderful colourful conversations.

Vicki Carroll O'Neill

Episode 20 – Vicki Carroll (formerly O’Neill)

Vicki works with entrepreneurs, small business owners and executive leaders who are stuck in their business and need someone as a partner to coach them to their next level of success. Vicki offers growth marketing consultant advice, strategy plans & also organises in-house marketing teams.

heidi medina business coach

Episode 21 – Heidi Medina

This episode contains one of our most important conversations, so we’re definitely going to make it count!
Wendy Harris brings Heidi Medina into the conversation today, who opens up the conversation about abuse she has encountered.
She’s a Linkedin expert and business coach who is the exact opposite of the classic ‘my way or the highway’.
Whether you meet Heidi online or in person she is the same.

Niraj Kapur online sales coach

Episode 22 – Niraj Kapur

In this episode, Wendy is joined by Online Sales Coach Niraj Kapur from “Everybody works in Sales” a business that helps companies with their sales processes.

Steve Judge paralympian motivational speaking

Episode 23 – Steve Judge

A life-changing accident that almost claimed a life but actually birthed a mindset shift.  Making conversations about speaking count!

Imagine losing your limbs in an accident.

That’s a real human test.

Most people would fall into one of two camps.

Feel the loss, and struggle to overcome it, before essentially accepting your ‘job lot’ and just becoming a bit angry.

Many would. And they’d be forgiven.

Then there are others, who would not let it defeat them, or define them.

Steve Judge is definitely in the latter of the two camps.

Nikolas Venios the ideas agency

Episode 24 – Nik Venios

We reflect on how this business man helped his poorly mother solve a household challenge which led to a career of making conversations about ideas and innovation count. We will all eventually lose our parents. Sadly, it’s a part of life. Not many of us have to suffer that loss at the tender age of just six. We couldn’t think of a nicer guy to help us with our goal of making conversations about ideas count. Truly, if anyone can hold a conversation about ideas, it’s Nik Venios of the Ideas Agency. Did you know that NASA has a genius test? During this episode, you’ll find out all about this, and the fascinating stats surrounding it.

Jonny cooper hates marketing

Episode 25 – Jonny Cooper

Most business owners hate marketing. That’s probably because they don’t understand it. Someone who does get marketing is Jonny Cooper, and even he can’t stand it! In fact, he despises it so much, he built a business around it. Welcome to Jonny Hates Marketing! This week we’re making conversations about messaging count. Messaging is so important to get correct. Your entire marketing voice depends on it. That’s why you need to listen very carefully to Jonny Cooper.

Wendy Harris telephone trainer how to sell over the phone

Episode 26 – Wendy Harris

Wendy Harris is an expert telemarketer, who has years worth of experience in cold-calling and doing it right. Now a podcast host, Wendy shares her story and how she became an advocate for making conversations count!

Will Polston Make it happen

Episode 27 – Will Polston

Making conversations about wealth….and Clubhouse….count! Paying it forward. Acting from a position of generosity and giving within the law of reciprocity. We’re talking to Will Polston.

Ray Blakney Live Lingua

Episode 28 – Ray Blakney

Making conversations about language count… Ray Blakney is the CEO And founder of online language school Live Lingua. Can you speak another language other than your native tongue? Wendy admitted to the “Making Conversations Count” team that she doesn’t, and we can’t help but feel she’s definitely not alone.

Many Ward write my book cuddle monster

Episode 29 – Mandy Ward

Mandy Ward is a book mentor, helping people to write their own books under the company ‘Write my book’. Mandy is also an author herself, including the popular children’s book ‘The Cuddle Monster’.

Sarah Townsend copywriter survival skills for freelancers

Episode 30 – Sarah Townsend

Sarah Townsend is a freelance copywriter and best-selling author of the book ‘survival skills for freelancers’. In this episode, we discuss the importance of conversations in the freelance world, and how things can lead to many opportunities…

Paul Furlong visual branding advertiser videographer

Episode 31 – Paul Furlong

Paul Furlong is part of Opus Media, producing TV advertising, videos, and photographs for businesses. He knows a thing or two about visual branding, and is considered a advertising guru!

Masami Sato founder B1G1

Episode 32 – Masami Sato

Masami Sato set up the B1G1 initiative. Helping businesses to do good by giving back. When was the last time you gave, freely Not for tax reasons. And not because you felt awkward at a raffle. We could all always do more.

Ann Hobbs Forward thinking publishing

Episode 33 – Ann Hobbs

Ann Hobbs helps people to self-publish their books with Forward Thinking Publishing. She is also a coach and author of her book ‘Kick ass your life’, helping people to push through adversity.

Kim-Adele Platts Career development coach

Episode 34 – Kim-Adele Platts

Kim-Adele Platts, Career Development Coach. Making Conversations about Leadership Count! If you don’t believe in yourself how do you expect others to? This was a question and topic that surfaced during this powerful and insightful conversation with Kim-Adele Platts.

Marina Hauer branding specialist for coaches

Episode 35 – Marina Hauer

Marina Hauer is a branding specialist for independent coaches. Are you using three different brand ‘voices’ in your marketing efforts? We’re making conversations about branding count!

David Smith MBE paralympian

Episode 36 – David Smith

David Smith MBE is a Paralympian in the sport Boccia. Do you know what Boccia is? David tells you in this episode all about the most inclusive Paralympian sport that helps people with their independence.

Graham Nash accountant

Episode 37 – Graham Nash

Graham Nash, BusinessWise Accountants, has worked in many fields over the years and the one common denominator has been helping business turnaround.

Ian Genius sales coach

Episode 38 – Ian Genius

Ian Genius is the sales coach to help you gain confidence in sales. His Ingenious technique helps clients see the value of your best package to COMMAND a higher price.

Jennie Erikson voice over artist

Episode 39 – Jennie Eriksen

Jennie Eriksen is a voice over artist, her company name is Lovely Voice. She helps her intended listener to learn by being able to bring characters to life.

Stella Da Silva employability trainer

Episode 40 – Stella Da Silva

Stella Da Silva talks about vocations in this episode, as a specialist employability trainer she shares her insider knowledge.
What skills do you need to be employable?

Hypnotist Jonathan Chase

Episode 41 – Jonathan Chase

Look into my eyes! You will feel very sleepy! You guessed it, we’re having one of our many conversations that count with hypnosis star Jonathan Chase.

Brynne Tillman social sales link

Episode 42 – Brynne Tillman

Brynne Tillman is a social selling expert. Her company ‘Social Sales Link’ teaches the importance of connection for selling on LinkedIn and other platforms.

Ruth Driscoll

Episode 43 – Ruth Driscoll

Ruth Driscoll supports people through toxic relationships. Her company the ‘life liberator’ takes her personal experiences to help others.

Rob Begg mindset coach

Episode 44 – Rob Begg

Rob Begg is a results based mindset coach to business leaders & teams. In this episode, he talks about your ego and self-limiting beliefs many of us hold.

Dan Knowlton video advertising

Episode 45 – Dan Knowlton

Dan Knowlton and his brother Lloyd run Knowlton – a social media and video advertising company who create unique, funny content to stop the scroll.

Sudhir Kumar

Episode 46 – Sudhir Kumar

Sudhir Kumar is an expert in social selling to grow your business, he’s written a book ‘Being Human: Marketing & Social Selling in a Digital World’.

Episode 47 – Ann Page

Ann Page is a lawyer who helps other lawyers with her courses. She teaches valuable business skills and teaches the importance of avoiding jargon.

Joe Chatham networking

Episode 48 – Joe Chatham

Joe Chatham set up USA 500. It’s an exclusive member-based organization focusing on sharing his expertise in marketing relationships and networking.

Larry Long Jnr

Episode 49 – Larry Long Jnr

Larry Long Jnr is a sales coach that helps give people, teams, and organizations the motivation to go from good to great.

pete cann laughter man

Episode 50 – Pete Cann

Larry Long Jnr is a sales coach that helps give people, teams, and organizations the motivation to go from good to great.

Hear what people are saying about the show

I love this podcast. The guests you have on all bring something new to the conversation and definitely thought-provoking.

Sometimes this means I change something I do, or something I would say, and other times it’s a real opportunity for reflection.

Thanks for sharing your guests with us Wendy, the podcasts are brilliant.

Paula Senior

I always enjoy listening to Wendy’s Making Conversations Count podcast and admire her talent for drawing out people’s stories and getting to the heart of things for finding out what makes them tick.

We all have pivotal moments and Wendy manages to find the right parts, showcasing the reasons why someone is who they are.

It’s those details that we connect to and come to more understanding of why people do what they do.

Heidi Medina

Love this podcast series. It’s a great idea to have a theme of ‘pivotal conversations’ and the variety of guests from massively different backgrounds keeps it fresh and interesting.

Wendy is a natural host and makes people feel at ease to share their stories.

Andrew Deighton

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